The realization that a woman is a man's soul mate happens after he takes time to get to know her. It is unrealistic to expect this recognition right away. It takes time for our hearts to open fully to one another. When love grows, then we just know one day if our partner is right for us. This recognition is not a mental assessment. It is a natural knowing.

 

The right person for us is recognized by our souls, not by our mind. The soul does not figure things out. It just knows" this is the person for me" if we try to figure out if a partner is right, then we will be judging her from our mind. From this perspective, she will never be enough. Our mind will always find a list of flaws. To pick a soul mate, we must choose from our soul.

 

Ideally we should use our minds to figure out how we can most effectively give and receive love and support. As we succeed in the dating process by using our minds, our hearts begin to open. With an open heart, our soul can then guide us to continue on or to break up. A soul mate is someone with whom in our heart of hearts we feel a longing to share our lives.